1. inneskeeper:

    *takes a deep breath* Okay, let me engage with you in good faith here. Let’s give this a shot.

    The context of your question is this: Is it okay if news sites like Buzzfeed and stuff have Pedro Pascal read horny tweets or ask him his opinion on how people are calling him Daddy.

    The question you are asking is this: Saying that this is shitty is just Puritanism.

    Here is my answer:

    Anon. Pedro Pascal is a service worker. For the purposes of this context, he is quite literally not the slightest bit different from a Starbucks barista or a Target cashier or a mall food court employee. He is someone who is performing their job, and their job entails existing in public and being polite and smiley and not making the public uncomfortable, even if the public is, say, sexually harassing him.

    By placing celebrities into scenarios in which they are forced to answer or acknowledge the fact that there are fans who are objectifying and fetishizing them, and asking those celebrities to respond to said fans, those celebrities are now being forced to experience a form of sexual harassment. I do not care if you are calling Pedro Pascal daddy on the Internet. He’s hot. I’ve called him Daddy, for Christ’s sake. The problem is not that people enjoy seeing what movie stars look like on a screen. That is their literal job description.

    The problem, the sole and only problem here, and it is a big one, is when those movie stars are being shown tweets or fanfic or whatever, I don’t care, of how their fans have graphic and explicit sexual desires for them, and this is being done to create content, and that content is being made to make someone a lot of money because people will click a link to watch or read how Pedro Pascal reacted to learning about his fans calling him Daddy and what they want him to do to them, when he is in a public interview where whatever his reaction is will be unavoidably recorded and picked apart by dozens of thousands of parasocially horny vultures with no sense of tact or boundaries.

    Does this make sense, Anon? Do you understand now why this isn’t “just Puritanism”?

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  2. softness-and-shattering:

    turbozarky:

    halo-magicmoon:

    softgaycontent:

    biblioprincessdalian:

    Applying for jobs is a hell designed specifically to torment autistic people. Here is a well-paying task which you know in your heart and soul if they just gave you a desk and left you alone and allowed you to do it you would sit there and be more focused and enthusiastic and excellent at it than anyone else in the building. However, before they allow you to perform the task, you must pass through 3-4 opaque social crucibles where you must wear uncomfortable clothes and make eye contact while everyone expects you to lie, but not too much (no one is ever clear exactly how much lying is expected, “over” honesty is however penalized). You are being judged almost entirely on how well you understand these very specific and unclear rules that no one has explained. None of this has anything to do with your ability to perform the desired task.

    It is hell! I want to acknowledge that the original point of the post is NOT fixed by my providing solutions (the way jobs are filled makes no sense), but also I want to leave some notes for folks struggling with these unspoken rules. 

    Some brief notes on the correct kinds of “LYING”:

    Always use “I” expressions, instead of “we”:
    1. eg “I created a solution to a recurring problem by doing [x].”, even if it was really you and two others in a group
    2. If you LED the group (or did project-management), you can say, “I led a team to create a solution to a recurring problem by doing [x].”
    3. This is because employers like to know that YOU can do, and they also value team-leadership. If you say “we”, they may stop you and ask what You did specifically. You can avoid this by just saying “I”.
    Someone asks if you have experience in a program (like excel):
    1. If you feel confident using it:  “Yes, I am very proficient.”
    2. If you have used it a few times, and could at least google what to do next: “Yes, I have good experience.”
    3. If you don’t have any experience: “I have used it before. I generally pick up programs very fast, and I’m a quick learner.”
    Mistakes (some interviewers may ask about a time you made a mistake, or a weakness of yours):
    1. Good answers are those with solutions.
    2. Bad answer examples:  “Sometimes I don’t catch mistakes before sending things.”  OR  “I don’t like working with other people”
    3. Good answer examples:  “I had a problem catching typos, so I implemented steps that force me to check my work.”  OR  “I prefer to do things on my own so I know it’s done right, but I’m working on trusting my teammates to take on pieces as well.”
    Someone asks if you’ve ever led a team / managed a project:
    1. Try to say YES to this question (even if it is a lie)
    2. If you have, say yes, and say how many people were on the team. 
    3. If you haven’t, but you played a large role in a group of people, say yes, and talk about your primary role on the team. 
    4. If you haven’t, but you worked solo on something that needed input from other people, say yes, and say what the project was about. 

    Additional:

    Misc Rules
    1. You can ask people to repeat interview questions
    2. You can write down interview questions while they’re asking (write the basics of the question down for yourself, like the top things you have to answer). People will wait for you to finish writing, you don’t have to answer Immediately.
    3. Try to keep your answer to questions somewhere between 30 seconds to 1 minute and 30 seconds. You don’t have to time it, but if you find that your answers are taking 3 minutes, you might lose interest.
    Have a list of projects / bragging points to talk about in advance
    1. Try to make sure they at least answer the core question asked, don’t just bring up a completely unrelated topic
    2. Example: if you are really excited to talk about a program you wrote, and someone asks about balancing projects, you can say you are good at AUTOMATION, and an example is this program you wrote
    “Do you have any questions for us?” (A question asked at the end of most interviews.)
    1. “What has been your favorite part of working at [company]?”
    2. “What’s been your favorite project to work on?”
    3. People like talking about themselves
    Thank you emails
    1. Some employers care if you send them a thank you “letter” (email). Sometime by the end of the day (you can do it right after the interview if you think you’ll forget), send a thank you email like this (you can look up other templates, or ask a friend for help):
    2. Subject Line:  Thank You
    3. “Hi [interviewer name],
      It was great speaking with you. Hearing more about the role, as well as what you said about [their answer to a question you asked them] has made me even more excited for this opportunity.
      Thank you for your time today,
      [Your Name]

    Good luck!!

    Im gonna need this in 2 years!

    Honestly the “applying and interviewing for a job” is harder and more stressful than actually doing the job 999% of the time for me. I hate it so much.

    Wait they ask about mistakes and weaknesses because they want to hear about solutions?! That makes so much more sense! Why dont they just verbalize the solution part!

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  4. mrs-k-cottage-witch:

    lazywitchling:

    Y’all. I woke up this morning without a buttcrack-of-dawn alarm, got up naturally by about 7:30, went downstairs, made a cup of tea, sat on the couch in the sun near the cat, and read the newspaper.

    And promptly cried about how normal it was.

    I love it for you! Great job! Normal is nice and should be celebrated. Especially for those with executive function problems. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

    Reblogged from: mrs-k-cottage-witch
  5. sculpturesof:

    No doesn’t exist digitally anymore. It’s been replaced by Not Now or Maybe Later or Snooze Tumblr Live for the next 7 days or Sign In To Continue or We’ll show you less like this (lie) or Schedule your restart otherwise we force it in 10 minutes. And I hate it all with the heat of the sun.

    Reblogged from: dontwakethesnake
  6. notanarutoblogs:

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    File under: even more blatant proof cis people can joke about trans people without it being at their expense

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  7. flowercrownsylveon:

    lesbiansgoal:

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  8. whetstonefires:

    luulapants:

    Projection is definitely part of why fanfiction authors write characters as deeply insecure (even and especially when they are not in canon), but I don’t think it’s the whole story.

    I think it’s also that insecurity is seen as a “virtuous” character flaw. Saying that your main character is “too humble” is the fiction equivalent of telling a potential employer that your greatest weakness is working too hard. It’s safer and easier than approaching those ugly but more interesting character flaws like selfishness, wrath, prejudice. Ugly things that exist in all people, to some extent.

    If it is projection, it’s an idealized projection to only paint one’s cleanest flaws into their story.

    okay see, i think it’s very much projection, in the sense that if you write Cool Character Person as insecure–especially if you take whatever insecurities they really do have and blow them up huge and intense, so there’s a lot of canon material to work with–then you can walk them through the deep pangs of the low self-esteem and also through various proofs of worth and experiences of being reassured and validated and valued.

    or of gaining confidence and telling off the people who don’t value them instead, if that’s the place you’re at.

    because the aim is to thus vicariously go through that emotional arc yourself. (and offer this also to the readers.) which provides access to both catharsis and to practice letting go of negative self-thinking via your proxy.

    it’s in there with reparenting yourself, basically.

    people project insecurity onto fanfiction characters because they want to process their own insecurities. that is what the fic in question is for. it is an artwork and it is a tool. it’s doing what it’s supposed to.

    and i’ve noticed it’s not just easier set-up but works much better for most people as a mental health deal to do this work in a fanfic context, especially with a character who has elements of low self-worth but doesn’t wallow in them in the canon (established baseline of Cool Dude who can Handle This), than with an original character designed for the purpose, who will inevitably be defined by their function of having low self-esteem and by their connection to you. and thus be harder to commit to validating, and pull through to the sense of catharsis, and therefore less effective.

    there totally is a thing where fanfiction versions of characters lose specificity and become generic, and one of the many things that drives it is that people are more willing to engage with simpler and more comfortable flaws.

    but i don’t think picking out self-projection of insecurity as a virtue-signalling problem is an especially accurate or useful framing of the phenomenon.

    Reblogged from: cheeseanonioncrisps
  9. mr-phoenix-downer:

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    @hornetstabber you think you’re so fucking clever don’t you huh pal

    Reblogged from: cheeseanonioncrisps
  10. acakewalkofcrocodiles:

    mewi-or-lara:

    shutyourmoustache:

    @wickedcriminal how dare you to hide this gem in tags


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    guys being dudes!

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